What does the word desire mean to you? Sheryl Kingsberg, a clinical psychologist and professor of reproductive biology and psychiatry, addresses the components of desire. There is a biological component referred to as drive. This primal urge is hard wired in the brain. The second component of desire is the beliefs, values, and expectations of the individual. The relationship and feelings toward the partner is the final component of desire. Women with anorgasmia, or the inability to have an orgasm, may have one or more of these aspects missing.
Consult your gynecologist and sex therapist for guidance on how to increase your sex drive. It is possible to have desire emotion towards your partner with a physical disconnect and that can be addressed. In the meantime, check out the Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston.